{"id":1798,"date":"2021-10-19T15:20:38","date_gmt":"2021-10-19T15:20:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/?p=1798"},"modified":"2021-12-15T15:29:09","modified_gmt":"2021-12-15T15:29:09","slug":"how-to-stop-bullying-in-school","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/how-to-stop-bullying-in-school\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Stop Bullying in School"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Many segments of society, including parents, teachers, students, and community partners, are concerned about <\/span>how to stop bullying in school<span style=\"font-weight: 400\">. Administrators wonder how to stop a bully, and parents wonder, \u201cDo schools do enough to prevent bullying?\u201d Even <\/span><a href=\"\/pemc-florida\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">pediatric care centers<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"> are involved in addressing this problem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">October is National Bullying Prevention Month, helping mobilize resources and raise awareness to fight the problem.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>Defining Bullying<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Before we can answer how to deal with bullies, we must define a few terms. Bullying is ongoing, unprovoked, abusive conduct such as mocking, threatening, or harassing another who is, for some reason, less powerful or able to fend off the attacks. Cyberbullying, which often precedes or follows in-person abuse, involves this behavior online or via electronic devices. An unintentional offense given, or an isolated or justifiable flash of anger, is not bullying.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>Facing Up to Bullying: Look for Signs<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1800 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Facing-Up-to-Bullying-Look-for-Signs.jpg\" alt=\"Little Boy Sitting Alone on Floor After Suffering an Act of Bullying While Children Run In the Background. \" width=\"1000\" height=\"664\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Facing-Up-to-Bullying-Look-for-Signs-200x133.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Facing-Up-to-Bullying-Look-for-Signs-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Facing-Up-to-Bullying-Look-for-Signs-400x266.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Facing-Up-to-Bullying-Look-for-Signs-600x398.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Facing-Up-to-Bullying-Look-for-Signs-768x510.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Facing-Up-to-Bullying-Look-for-Signs-800x531.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Facing-Up-to-Bullying-Look-for-Signs.jpg 1000w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Between 2016 and 2019, one study found that reports of either bullying or being bullied had increased 35%. Twelve-to-seventeen-year-olds who said they had bullied others in the past 30 days went from about 11% to 30%. The good news is that some of this rise may be due to students\u2019 increased recognition of bullying. For more students to realize and admit to bullying is the first step to personal change. As a parent, you can worry about what to do if your child is being bullied and the school does nothing, but not enough parents face the question, \u201cIs my child a bully?\u201d We need to be clear-eyed about two things: we do not know everything about our kids, and even our own beloved child can be cruel. Bullying Prevention Month can provide a wake-up call about this.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Parents and others need to be alert because a child may not have the language or desire to &#8220;tell on&#8221; a bully. A child\u2019s increased use or sudden ignoring of devices and hiding or lying about use can be considered warning signals. And if a child doesn\u2019t have the mastery of tech that another does, he can be vulnerable to malicious youngsters who know how to cover their tracks or spread images or narratives in various forms. A kid isolated due to family changes, lack of friends, or disability is more likely to be exposed to bullying. Students who have high energy, like to test limits, enjoy an audience, and lack outlets for frustration may turn to bullying.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">According to the Cyberbullying Research Center, outward signs of being victimized include:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">changes in sleep patterns \u2014 sleeplessness or extra time in bed, which can indicate depression, reluctance to be at school in the bullied environment, and fear about how to stop a bully in their life<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">changes in eating habits \u2014 an increase or decrease in appetite<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">anxiety<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">begging to change schools or wanting to be homeschooled<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">asking to come home ill from school<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">preferring time at home to time with friends, or having few friends<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">making statements about feeling worthless or mentioning suicide<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">and clues that your child may be bullying include:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">secretive use of devices or multiple accounts under their own or other\u2019s names<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">new friends who are unkind or in trouble<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">increasing withdrawal or scorn toward family members<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">arrogance about their mastery of tech skills<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">callousness toward many of their peers<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">For both categories above, deterioration of academic performance and attention in class may also tell adults that something is wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Your pediatric care center can talk with you and your child if you see any of the signs mentioned above. Keeping the lines of communication open with kids is crucial to address these issues. Sometimes, a pediatric care center medical professional can have a frank dialogue with a youngster that leads to positive change.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>Health, Wealth, and Bullying<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Bullying can exist regardless of the wealth and prestige of the school or its population. If bullying isn\u2019t addressed, the health impact can be severe and long-lasting. According to a British study that followed students into adulthood, bullying victims had worse health, earned less, and had poorer social relationships.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Being bullied causes stress, which reduces immunity. Kids can navigate the occasional stressful event such as a big exam, but the ongoing nature of bullying can change a child\u2019s self-image and sense of place in the world, leading to depression (Segerstrom and Miller, 2004).<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>The School\u2019s Responsibility<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">According to the U.S. Supreme Court, there is no bright-line where the school\u2019s responsibility lies. A school could be sued for damages for failure to intervene in known student-on-student harassment. However, the school must have acted with \u201cdeliberate indifference\u201d toward the situation. The harassment must be so severe, pervasive, and objectively offensive that it effectively bars the victim&#8217;s access to school.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">The landmark case on student free speech, Tinker v. Des Moines, allows suspension from school if a student\u2019s speech, \u201cin class or out of it,\u201d substantially disrupts the educational process with disorder or invades the rights of others. State boards and school districts have a patchwork of policies that apply these legal principles to handle the issue, but do schools do enough to prevent bullying? And what should you do if your child is being bullied and your school does nothing?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>Successful Strategies<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1801 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Successful-Strategies.jpg\" alt=\"Sad Teen With Phone Being Comforted by Her Sister on a Couch in the Living Room at Home\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Successful-Strategies-200x133.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Successful-Strategies-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Successful-Strategies-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Successful-Strategies-600x400.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Successful-Strategies-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Successful-Strategies-800x534.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.toplinemd.com\/pemc-florida\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/111\/2021\/12\/Successful-Strategies.jpg 1000w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Not all approaches to the problem are effective. Punishment, coerced apology (which can lead to later retaliation), peer mediation, and bystander intervention only show spotty success. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/what_are_the_best_ways_to_prevent_bullying_in_schools\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">According to research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">, a positive school climate and social and emotional learning are better strategies.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">The climate at a school can convey a unified mission, where everyone is seen and everyone has a part. Or it can be a disjointed, discouraged dog-eat-dog environment, where pockets of unsupervised anarchy exist, and power-hungry students hold sway.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">In a successful school, teachers listen. Students widely report that teachers fail to discern or respond to bullying issues. When teachers are not empathetic, don\u2019t follow through on complaints or threats, or favor some types of students over others, a climate conducive to bullying is created. Teachers report feeling ill-equipped to handle bullying issues and may even unwittingly engage in bullying behavior themselves. Overwhelmed with other matters, they may fail to model skills they do know. Faculty, parents, and students can all benefit from social\/emotional training.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Social\/emotional skills such as:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">role-playing activities (more effective than theatrical activities)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">giving kids with bullying tendencies leadership opportunities and training that channel their aggression<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">teaching the Golden Rule principle of treating others the way you would like to be treated<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">listening and reflecting-back\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">recognizing and naming emotions and motivations<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">connecting family with school in the anti-bullying effort<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><b>The Way Forward<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">If you suspect your child is a bully or victim of bullying, contact us. We\u2019re experts and have been helping families for years with many of the problems arising from this issue.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Many segments of society, including parents, teachers, students, and community partners, are concerned about how to stop bullying in school. Administrators wonder how to stop a bully, and parents wonder, \u201cDo schools do enough to prevent bullying?\u201d Even pediatric care centers are involved in addressing this problem. 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